I spent the first 26 years of my career thinking I had to be more, do more, have more, add in more, care more, act more, fire myself up more. Exhausting. What I'm seeing now is that the secret to living the fullest, most magnificent life is in these two surprising...
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The Four Secrets of a Great Life
At first, everything is an adventure. There is so much to explore and see and listen to and do and make and learn and take apart. You reach and crawl and pull yourself up and toddle towards whatever catches your attention. Sometimes you cry and sometimes you smile....
How to be a well-intentioned but less than brilliant parent (or coach, teacher, boss…)
I doubt that anyone becomes a parent with the intention of holding someone back. That would be a pretty laborious way of scuppering the human race. But as parents (and coaches, teachers, employers) it can happen that in our earnest desire to help someone we end up...
The end of stress. Even when it seems like the end of the world.
The coaching I do is based on the understanding that we experience everything through thought. We cannot experience anything directly. However real it seems, it is always perceived through our state of mind in that moment. Our state of mind changes from one moment to...
What’s the point, anyway?
What is the point of life? I'm asking this because, well, useful to know. And also as a coach who is supposed to help people get better at this life business, I would like to know what I am doing. Until quite recently I was on a very clear, logical journey. The point...
What's the point, anyway?
What is the point of life? I'm asking this because, well, useful to know. And also as a coach who is supposed to help people get better at this life business, I would like to know what I am doing. Until quite recently I was on a very clear, logical journey. The point...
If it’s just my thinking, I should stay here, right?
I'm lying on a bed, locked in a remote house with an obsessed fan who is about to destroy my legs. You could come and talk to me about how everything is experienced through thought. But to be honest, that wouldn't be massively helpful at the moment. What I'd find most...
If it's just my thinking, I should stay here, right?
I'm lying on a bed, locked in a remote house with an obsessed fan who is about to destroy my legs. You could come and talk to me about how everything is experienced through thought. But to be honest, that wouldn't be massively helpful at the moment. What I'd find most...
The end of self-improvement / self-acceptance / self-development / self-anything. The start of getting real.
I spent decades believing that I had to improve and develop myself. According to where I was working, who I was admiring, what I was watching or reading, how I was being told to be, I knew I had to be stronger, cleverer, wittier, funnier, fitter, better dressed, more...
Denial and the 3Ps.
Have any of you Coaches ever had a client say anything like this....? "Yes I can see how I'm creating my experience of life but those idiots really are ruining the country." "I realise that when I'm doing other stuff I don't think about food but that's just...
