If you are like me, there might be something along these lines going on in the back of your mind: I am exploring the understanding of how we experience life in order to make my life better. I am reflecting on the illusion of money in order to make earning it more...
A revolution in our understanding of human well-being, resilience and resolve is gathering pace in business, sport, therapy, prisons, healthcare, psychiatry…. Those of us working in this area witness daily the tremendous transformation when an individual realises that...
‘L’enfer, c’est les autres’, is a line in Sartre’s play ‘No Exit’. Hell is other people. In a typical week in my coaching practice, on social media, in the headlines, in opinion polls, in agony columns, in my own life, family and marriage, this is confirmed over and...
Imagine paradise. Not the regular paradise of hammocks and sunsets and pina coladas. But a paradise way way beyond that, a melting. merging energetic intensity, formless and fluid. Abstract as love. Eternal as infinity. Indefinable as space. The abundant, creative...
You know how at the start of each episode of Lost there was the floating title and the dramatic voice over saying ‘Previously on Lost…’ and a recap of the highlights to date. Well for people who are starting to see the inside out nature of their experience more...
I wrote an article exploring how we can understand endemic sexual harassment in relation to the fact that our experience of life is through thought in the moment. I looked at the fact that people do terrible things and how that relates to the central principle of my...
Hundreds of thousands of people are posting the words ‘me too’ on social media to say they have been sexually harassed or violated. I have my own examples, my own times of shock, fear, embarrassment, pain and intrusion. Yet the coaching I practice is based on an...
It used to be all about change. In life coaching we used to look at changing our circumstances, what we were doing or what we owned to try to be happy or successful. In most therapeutic practices we looked at changing ourselves, our thoughts or our inner dialogues so...
Look me in the eye. That was what our Mum used to say when all the biscuits had been eaten and my sister and I, crumbs around our faces, would be looking off to the side in casual innocence. And we wouldn’t be able to. Looking her in the eye would mean that it would...
A few people I know have been told recently by various institutions or counsellors that they are victims of abuse. They have sought help because they are feeling scared and helpless. A well-meaning person, wanting to do the best for them provides a comforting label:...